God created a suitable partner for Adam, the first man. This partner was so perfect a match for Adam that he could call her "bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh" (Gn 2:23). Eve literally completed Adam's flesh; she was created out of the missing piece of Adam's body, his rib. In becoming one with Eve, Adam's missing piece (Gn 2:21) was restored and they were both made whole.

A young person who has discerned the call to a married vocation should ponder these words: "Are you free of a wife (or husband)? If so, do not go in search of one" (1 Cor 7:27). God has created a suitable partner for you. The key to beginning your married vocation is to allow God to put you and your suitable partner together. God's word tells you not to search for a spouse. Just continually seek to serve God in your present state in life, and allow him to bring your future spouse into your life (see Mt 6:33). God is extremely talented and creative in matchmaking. His only hindrance is when we get impatient, choose our own spouse, and do not wait for Him to unfold His perfect plan.

For those who are already married, if your marriage is less than perfect, it is tempting to wonder if you jumped the gun and married the wrong person. Reflect on this passage: "Are you bound to a wife (or husband)? If so, do not seek your freedom" (1 Cor 7:27). Jesus can make all things new (Rv 21:5). Jesus performed his first miracle at a wedding: He changed what was empty into something full and beautiful, far surpassing the quality of what existed before (Jn 2:1ff). Even now, God can make you into suitable partners.

Nihil Obstat:  Reverend Robert L. Hagedorn, July 23, 1998

Imprimatur:  †Most Reverend Carl K. Moeddel, Vicar General and Auxiliary Bishop of the Archdiocese of Cincinnati, July 27, 1998